First
...as a tourist, I felt absolutely safe in Kashmir. It's been safe since 2003 but many people are not updated about it. So, if you are planning a trip to Leh or Srinagar, go ahead by all means. Kashmiris will be happy to see you - you are good business. And you will be safe. If you are a nationalist, however, you will be irked by the occasional questions: "Aap India se aaye hain?"
Kashmir is the most beautiful place on earth that I have seen - I am including 4 continents in that including a fair bit of Europe.
The Paradise and the people
I was in Kashmir for two weeks this month and spoke to dozens of people. Anyone doing anything worthwhile in his life in that state has understood that their future is with India - a lot of money flows in from India through the tourists. Only the odd loser thinks that getting away from India will somehow mean redistribution of cards of his fortune where he may end up getting something better.
There is absolutely no reason for Kashmir to be different from the rest of India in any way. We should rally behind the Army and our government to straighten out the odd loser and the politicians who want otherwise. Politicians are just exploiting the losers. Both the politician and the loser do not want to do things the right way and want quick gains somehow.
The remnants of terrorism
I further learned from the locals that terrorism is just a cottage industry there and the Army is far more credible than the police. The occasional stone pelting is remunerated in daily wages and the youngsters pelting the stones do not know why they are doing it. Going rate: Srinagar: Rs 500 per day, Sonmarg: Rs 300 per day, smaller cities: Rs 100 per day.
The Army
I, in fact, saw police being quite rude with the locals there but the Army was always courteous. Even when a young shopkeeper after cleaning his shop while burning the trash, ended up burning the communication line of the Army, the 5 guys who came out to fix the wires were only joking with the sheepish kid ... who was recognized as the unintentional vandal by the onlookers.
We the poor ignored souls
A few people told me that the government ignores us and does little for us. I told them that I am just as worthless for the government of India as they are... and even in the bigger cities, Government does a lousy job with the infrastructure, public utilities, power, and public transport. Government does not discriminate. Government just doesn't care for either you or me. They seemed to understand.
People in general were happy with PDP regaining some strength in the General elections and they were less in favour of the Abdullas. Now the Abdullas and the Muftis may compete to show who is the bigger living martyr for the article 370.
People in general
People of Kashmir in general are objective, good to talk to, and easy to deal with. As we know, they are very good looking with sharp features and good built - so much so that you will come across dashing, burly guys driving taxis and doing small time jobs who could easily pass off as Bollywood superstars.
Conclusion
Due to the separatism, however, Kashmir is like that gifted son of India that has huge potential to make it big in life but instead indulges in unproductive mischief to be a pain in the back for his mother.